An Online Al-Anon Family Group

Key to

Key Home Page
How to Join
Members Info
New to Al-Anon?
Contact Us

Is the Key To

      -- Concept Four

A Clean Slate

We have begun a new year but I have to remind myself that it too will pass "one day at a time". A year ago I was trying to envision what the year would have in store for me. Who could have 'thunk' it?

I celebrated my first year in Al-Anon January 19, 1999. I didn't know that when my head was in a whirl. I knew I wanted to make some changes, but I didn't know they were in me. I thought, "if I could just change the...", you all know how that story goes.

I was sort of plodding along, one day mixing into the next, and then the next. I couldn't separate one day from the previous. The weeks would pass and they all seemed the same. Then I walked into my 1st f2f meeting!

Starting Fresh Today

Now, "one day at a time" has an entirely different meaning. It's not the same as yesterday, nor will it be the same as tomorrow. I still have to remind myself that TODAY is a clean slate. I have today to start fresh.

If I am not careful I waste all of my todays by troubling myself with the mistakes I made yesterday. Instead, I try to end each day with making "mental amends" and talking with my H.P. In that way, I can awaken to the day I will work a little harder at having fewer "mental amends" to make at the end.

Shortly after joining this wonderful fellowship I heard the following:

Yesterday is history,
Tomorrow is a mystery,
Today is a gift from God...
That's why it's called, The Present.

For me, it's ok to remember the mistakes I made as long as I do so only as a learning tool; in that way I hope not repeat them. I can also plan for the future, as long as I don't plan the outcome (I heard that here and love it!) Today is the only time I have to be actively working on myself. NOT yesterday, NOT tomorrow, TODAY.

I can't say I will make the most of TODAY. With God's guidance, I will do what is necessary, but if I don't get 'it' all done, hopefully I will have tomorrow to work on 'it' some more.

Today, I want the Serenity of acceptance and the Courage to change. Unlike a year ago, Today I know the change has to be in me and that takes a lot of courage.

Roland in Central Oregon

Back to the Newcomers Meeting

Some of the information on this website is copyrighted by Al-Anon Family Group Headquarters, Inc., 1600 Corporate Landing Parkway, Virginia Beach, Va. 23454. The use of such Conference Approved Literature here does not constitute endorsement of this website by AFG, WSO, or any other entities. If you have any questions or comments about this website or would like to report any inoperative links or pages, please contact us.